EVER ENTERED A PARTY and didn’t know what to do? Even assuming that
you do not know the people, stop hiding behind pillars. minimal preparation, you
can engage with panache.

Have A Road Map:
Conversation with strangers typically moves through five stages, says psychologist
Bernardo Carducci. From opening line (keep 11 simple) and introductions, to
trying out topics and exploring for common ground, to closure, in which you tell
that what you learned and possibly exchange contact information. Once you
internalize these steps, you will always have a mental map of where to go next.

Stay Informed:
“If you’re going some place next week, then know what happened this week,
business, or personal, or social,” says Carducci. You don’t have to be an expert.” To
help conversations flow, apply the two rules of brainstorming: Throw in comments
without trying to impress people, and don’t judge ideas as they come up. Others will
participate more freely if they don’t think what they say will be criticised.

Warm Up:
Arrive early at events so you can meet people one-on-one. Then, move on to ‘quick
talk. Talk lots of different people for short periods, so you don’t put a lot of pressure
on yourself. Have the same conversation with eight or 10 people in your initial
swing through the crowd-you’re warming up, just like someone at a race. Then you
can go back to the people who interest you.

Look Approachable:
Do not shuffle and look uncomfortable. When people conceal their social anxiety
behind a neutral mask, others can become uneasy and interpret their faces as aloof
or hostile. To develop warmer interactions, practice looking up with a welcoming
smile in the mirror. Do not struggle and look uncomfortable. When we hunch up
and lower our heads we feel more introspective. When we stand tall and lift our
heads and smile our attention moves outward.

Eye Contact Shows Respect:
To make a good first impression, maintain a relaxed posture and warm, engaging
eye contact. By meeting someone’s eyes, you’re showing that your mind is not
someplace else. To soften your gaze, move your eyes lightly around the person’s
face, says relationship coach Susan Rabin.

Say Anything:
To break the ice, comment on some detail about the environment around you. Your
purpose simply to signal your willingness to talk. “People think they have to be
witty or urbane-what they really have to be is nice.

Give Extra Information:
To get a conversation humming, add details, such as “I live in Outram lines near
GTB Metro Station” “This gives others more topics to run with, so the conversation
doesn’t drop like a lead balloon. It does not have to be deep and intimate to be a
meaningful connection.

Aishwarya Says:

I have always been against Glorifying Over Work and therefore, in the year 2021, I have decided to launch this campaign “Balancing Life”and talk about this wrong practice, that we have been following since last few years. I will be talking to and interviewing around 1 lakh people in the coming 2021 and publish their interview regarding their opinion on glamourising Over Work.

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