Parenting is a skill which we are not particulary teached anywhere and not understanding how to do parenting is a greater problem than being a parent.
Parenting is simply growing your kid so that they not only have good values but also to make them capable of worldly doings and achievements.
Parenting comes when you give birth and ends when you die . According to “Chanakya Neeti”. First five years love your child and keep them in good environment as this is the only time when there brain is shaping subconsciously and their paradigms are being formed which must be positive and graceful years. Then next ten years i.e. upto fifteen years make your child disciplined as these are the foundation years of a child in this time if you don’t focus on them, then they would not focus on their life.
It is time when you make them and awake them and induce good habits like early rising, daily exercise etc. in them as well as discipline them to take a task and complete it.
And once good habits are developed in them they will surely thank you later.
Making them disciplined also means saying no to their needs of leisure and teaching them value of everything.
After 16 years and above teach your child as a friend and teach them life lesson and success secrets and your life learning and also develop them to the limit where they can be self made. And make them realize their mistakes too and let them try their actions alone.
Don’t be always side of your child to help them but make them capable enough to live their life without support.
Just like seagull family which leaves the new born seagull at the edge of big rock so that when it gets hungry it will try out to fly and feed and leaves it their until it flies by it’s own.
Spoonfeeding all the time will be disaster for your child. Let them learn things and fall and stand back again on their own. And teach them to follow their intuition and to never ever give up and perseverance in life.
Don’t show them your fights and quarrels as it will negatively impact them. But it should not be always hidden as make them know that Good and Bad are two sides of a coin and we have to always choose good one. And also teach them happiness and sadness are both part of life and teach them to accept it.
Always teach your child Goal setting and Time management also.
Just like “Rich dad poor dad” book parents be the Rich dad teaching your child hard work and smartwork and all other financial knowledge rather than school education only.
Also tell them to read Bhagwadgeeta which contains many answers in itself also. Teach them your religious culture also and vedic knowledge.
Also try to teach them resiliency and skill development and try to see in which your child is excelling so at the time when your child seeks their passion you could tell them their strength.
And teach them to have stillness in life despite of any conditions in life. And to have failures in life wait! Now you would be thinking what? Yes teach them failure is normal and a step towards success.
And build their character also and time to time observe their mental state and also have time with them. As parenting is the skill which is required for making your best asset(love) work Best.
Also make them book reader from young age and gift them books also.
Love your child but scold them also when they are wrong. Teach and preach them right and wrong. And make sure your parenting skill fills your child with all the skills to endure this world and life leading a happy and prosperous life.
Teach them social skills also and also how to make friends etc. and tell them not to eat junk food and teach them also to ignore instant gratification and to have futuristic approach to everything. Teach them to venture also without fear and make them inclined towards the pain of Discipline rather than pain of Regret.
I have always been against Glorifying Over Work and therefore, in the year 2021, I have decided to launch this campaign “Balancing Life”and talk about this wrong practice, that we have been following since last few years. I will be talking to and interviewing around 1 lakh people in the coming 2021 and publish their interview regarding their opinion on glamourising Over Work.
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