Divorce is defined as the legal termination of a marriage, but in its real sense there is a lot more to it than just the end of a relationship. Nowadays many marriages end in divorce, and surprisingly most of the end at their early stages. This is an important study in the sociological research today as along with divorce rates going up, people’s level of tension and hesitation about marriage is also increasing. Nowadays the society accepts divorce very easily and even suggests it as a solution to the trivial problems faced in a husband-wife relationship. Therefore marriages and family life are at risk. If the numbers of divorces keep on rising in this pattern, marriages might as well become extinct. To add to the existing problem, various law firms and websites provoke divorce through various methods such as advertising the benefits of divorce or by offering customized divorce forms online. The soaring divorces are not just questioning the importance of relationships and ties but they are also creating severe after effects in the life of the divorcees. There are harsh emotional, medical, financial and psychological implications of divorce.
Marriage is a very close relationship that provides solid emotional support and comfort. You get to be intimate with another individual and share all your secrets with your spouse. You are duty-bound to come to each other’s assistance when in need and provide a shoulder to lean on whenever your husband or wife is feeling low and depressed. People who divorce deprive themselves of the support offered by the marital relationship. They suffer from the trauma of divorce and may slip into achronic depression. This affects the success of their future relationships since they may develop a feeling deep down within them that their partners just cannot be trusted. People bitten by divorce may take to alcoholism and even attempt suicide. Worse, if they have children, they too suffers with them and may also develop many psychological problems. There could be any number of reasons for the rise in the divorce rate in recent times. One reason could be that divorce is more socially acceptable to more people now. Another reason could be that fewer people belong to religions that oppose divorce and/or fewer people following rules of religion even if they attend services regularly. Another factor could be that in the past more people stayed in situations that today are considered abusive, and the increased awareness of what constitutes abuse and why leaving is not only ok, but desirable, could play a rule as well. I think, though, that there may be a less obvious and possibly more widespread problem at the root of many relationships, and I think it stems from a widely accepted piece of advice given to young people: You shouldn’t just marry someone because you’re in love with them. That kind of love wears off. You should marry your best friend.” This advice comes from the fact that many people are aware of differences between infatuation and “real love”, and many people are equally aware that infatuation can seem like real love but wear off. People generally understand, too, that even in the relationship that is headed for a calmer love there is the stage of hyperventilating when the partners of a new relationship talk with one another and of flowers and not being able to be the first one to hang up at the end of a phone conversation. All this awareness of what “real love” is and isn’t something that our society has seemed to generate over the last few decades; and while much of what people say about love and relationships is often generally true, the “marry-your-best-friend” advice can at times backfire.
When we talk about marriage and its importance in our life, it is equally important that we should also discuss the intricacies of the divorce. Though it is still looked upon as a social evil, the law permits a couple to separate ways on mutual grounds. In India divorce is still a major social taboo and divorce seekers have to undergo several ordeals in order to get separated from each other. In earlier days, in spite of existence of radical disparity between spouses, either of the two was expected to compromise with the other so that their marital bonding survives.
Though divorce at an individual level is a liberting factor for estranged couples, the problem arises when the divorce rate becomes too high and people begin to see it as quick and easy way out of their marriages. An abnormally high divorce rate is not too good for society at all. A generation down the line, it will have serious social consequences, some of which are; Missing Parent; A divorce splits the family right down the middle. One parent has to pack his or her bags and move out of the house. Children are then forced to live with one parent while the other parent gets only visitation rights. The family becomes lopsided. The single parent has to juggle both job as well as domestic duties, and is unable to give the kind of upbringing and attention that should be given to the children for their healthy growth. Single-parent upbringing with the permanent absence of one parent creates serious psychological problems for children. Children of divorce suffer from stress, anxiety and depression in their childhood.
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