Does really ‘NO MEANS NO’?

Rape. In India it’s common. Every day in the newspaper you can find an article or two about it. It’s ban, right? There is a section for it in IPC ( Indian Penal Code) and punishment for the same. However, there is no effect for the same in society. Why? A big question mark. Let me share with you my opinion on it in this article.

Imran Khan, Prime Minister of Pakistan, in his recent interview, said that women dress length are responsible for rape. To be honest, I never really understood the concept of dress length of women and rape. Let’s assume it true for a second but what about those 2-5 years girls who become a victim of such a heinous crime? And what about those daughters who are raped by their own fathers at home. Are women now not safe at home too? Then where should they feel safe?

“NO MEANS NO”- Bollywood told us but do society accept our NO. Does anyone hear our NO? We are always taught to say YES. Whether it’s our mom asking us to eat DAL- CHAWAL in lunch or our father asking to return home before 6. We are always expected to say YES. On the other hand, if we say NO, society doesn’t hear it like they are deaf. Consent matters always. There is no compromising when it comes to consent.

After marriage men think women are their personal property. They never take consent from them. That also comes under rape. Marital rape. There is no concept of “owning women” in any dictionary. Women of small cities or villages even don’t know that their approval matters. They just do what their husband tells them to do. That’s because of a lack of education.

Parents are expected to give their children ‘Sex Education.’ 
“You came from heaven or a fairy dropped you in my arms”. That doesn’t work ma’am/sir. You should teach them or they will learn everything the hard way. But then you will blame them for mistakes that you did.

Some girls in India even don’t know about periods ( menstruation)  until they get them.
When they see a blood stain on their clothes, they panic, they cry. It’s because they lack the right education. Parents should take sex education seriously, should not feel ashamed of it. It’s new normal. You should answer their question regarding sex or other things patiently and honestly rather than feeling ashamed or scolding them for asking. If you do so, they won’t share anything with you ever.

Sometimes children don’t even realise that they are being molested or being sexually abused by someone. Realisation is the most important part when it comes to being get molested. If they won’t know it, they will think it’s normal. They won’t be able to tell their parents or say NO to the same.

Education is important. Teaching your son to accept a NO, to not take a NO as an insult is important. Dress length doesn’t matter. Its mentality and upbringing which does matter.
There is a lot to say but I feel there is no point because people just read and forget. They think that what can we do in this. But they are wrong. One small step towards something is everything. And someone rightly said, ” Be the Change You want to see in this world.” And in this case, take a small step in any way possible, it’s enough. At least it would affect a single person. That’s more than enough.

If you made it this far, thank you. Ratings and comments are highly acceptable.

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