We say grass is always greener on the other side. We human being have tendency that we are never satisfied with what we have, and we never appreciate what we have. Our needs and demands are insatiable. We are never satisfied with what we have and we fail to realise that we are constantly comparing ourselves with others, and some of us even wonder that the other person is in a better situation than us.
Today I am 38 years old married female with 2 kids, looking for an opportunity to prove myself (well, this is a continuous process in almost everybody’s life). I want to find out the lost identity which was once mine.
So, since the past 38 years of my life, I am trying to fulfil many roles and duties. Initially, it was easier, as they were only limited as a daughter, a sister and a friend, where it came with fewer responsibility. As time passed, the role became bigger and most complicated ones. In the process we tend to forget ourselves and one day we find out that we have lost the person who we were once upon a time.
It was Saturday morning and I had my day off. I have already planned my holiday,my routine chores which I need to complete asap. I get two days off, that’s Saturday and Sunday. These two days fly off in a blink and I think they are the busiest day of the week. I have to clean up my wardrobe and arrange my clothes for the week as I have to leave for work little early. My office starts from 7.00 a.m. to 5.00 p.m.
I was engrossed in my thoughts while planning to do my stuff. I was wondering how to finish off my work as I wanted to spend some qualitative time with my children. Being a working mother it’s not possible. Suddenly somebody tapped me and I turned around to see it was my 2 year old son looking innocently, through his heart piercing eyes and arms spreading saying hold me. I’m looking at him and wondering if I’ll hold him now he won’t let me go and I’ll end up with piles of work again. I request him to wait for a few more minutes. But the way he looks just melts your heart and you pick him up and cuddle your little one.
For a minute I’m wondering why I am doing all this,why I have to leave my little one behind and go out to work. Whenever I come back home I see him standing on the terrace just waiting for me. It’s very painful to leave him behind and focus on your work, wondering what he’s doing now. Balancing work and motherhood has started to take a toll on my health. But to whom I should talk about it. My husband has always supported my decision but when it comes down to our children he always tells him that they are our priority and no compromise will be made.
They’ll stay back at home instead of daycare. He doesn’t entertain children going to daycare. According to him they will not be taken care of the way we do. They will not pay attention to your child as there are many children out there and you never know how they’ll behave when we are not around. We have always argued on the pros and cons no. of times but at the end we agree that they’ll stay home without any daycare. If you see from my point of view, it will be a learning experience for them. They’ll indulge in multiple activities and they’ll develop many skills.
Motherhood is a package deal. On one hand you are a proud mother of your children but on otherhand it comes with lots and lots of stress and exhaustion . You are a career oriented woman but at the same time you have to deal with society who tag you as a selfish lady. There is always a guilt conscious of leaving a child behind and at the same time you want a safe and secured future.
I have always been against Glorifying Over Work and therefore, in the year 2021, I have decided to launch this campaign “Balancing Life”and talk about this wrong practice, that we have been following since last few years. I will be talking to and interviewing around 1 lakh people in the coming 2021 and publish their interview regarding their opinion on glamourising Over Work.
If you are interested in participating in the same, do let me know.
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