My marriage over the years – things nobody tells you about marriage

I have been married for almost 7 and a half years. I took the decision to spend my life with a stranger after meeting him only for 45 minutes.

Marriage is a gamble and therefore, sometimes it may workout, even if you do not have the best of the support sytem, it may work out for you and it may fail despite having the best of the support system. It is important to note that marriage is a combination of 10%luck, 85% efforts by both the spouses and 5 % of the support system.

I do not recall about one Bollywood movie in the recent years, which can show you the real life chemistry of common middle class couples like us. One of the most important aspects is that our lives are definately not as glamourous as the movies show you or how it is depicted by some couples on Instagram. Our ideas of romance is extremly different than what normal couples think.

The love between couples is directly proportional to the amount of weight gain.

The real life genuine couples like us have just one goal that is your spouse’s weight should be more than you. Whenever people meet you, they should say that your spouse has gained weight but you are the same.

I always wanted to marry a thin guy and then make him fat post wedding. I have succeded in the same, so I don’t think anybody can now tell me that I do not love my husband enough.

Fart Jokes

If you do not crack them in front of your spouse, it is believed that you do not love your spouse enough. Cracking Fart Jokes and blaming the opposite spouse is the favourite routine of most of the couples, only after popping out blackheads. Yes, what seems yucks to most people, sometimes means romance to some couples

Snores

On some nights when you are dead tired and attempting to sleep, it is possible that you may hear wierd scary noises. Don’t worry, it is nothing but somebody snoring, while sleeping next to you. Even though your spouse may deny the same in the morning and blame you for the same. It is always wise to keep a recording of snoring of the opposite person and then use it every time, you have been alleged about snoring.

Yes, we generally do that, whenever one of us doesnt have anything to do at night, we record each other’s snores and whats them. Because sending hearts and romantic messages are so Common.

Food

Whenever I have a disagreement with my husband, I just make him good food and ensure that he eats full. I don’t know why I do that but the thing that goes on in my mind is that may be he will gain some extra kgs after that fight.

Clothes

Normal Couples who are in love, never comment on clothes. Yes, I have very bad aesthetics and therefore my husband selects my clothes, when we go shopping. Yet, the best compliment I got till date is ‘Hmm’. I don’t know what that means, but I understand that it means approved. The best part is I can roam around with track pants, oiled messy hair and bushy eyebrows and he won’t care. Trust me he goes more often to Saloon that me. Now after getting the eyebrow trimmer, I have stopped that also completely.

Yes, He goes shopping alone, yet I never fail to give him my valueable inputs, when he asks for. Like, is he looking like a parrot when he wears green, how he resembles gobbly man in certain shirts etc. etc. For normal people this is crazy but for us, this is love.

Clicking photographs

I have always clicked best photographs of him. All the pictures that I have clicked of my husband can fetch me awards. Yet, the photos that he clicks of us or with the kids are scary. Most of the times, they are out of focus and barely my face is visible. I guess, this is the story with most wives.

Children

We share two lovely kids amongst us. Most of the times, we do have opposite view points with respect to the child but then we weigh the pros and cons about the situation and our opinions and then decide the best for our children. Even if it means selecting an option that one of us does not like. Children are the reason for us to stay together but also we do have different ways of raising our children. We are two human being and therefore we are bound to have different opinions.

My Marriage is not picture perfect. Yes, we also do have our own set of flaws, yet we are ready to face problems together and that is what matters at the end of the day.

I am planning to get my husband in the same frame with me for a Vlog since last few days. Let us see, if I succeed or not. If you know him, convince him to appear in a Vlog with me 😛

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