This lockdown has been a testing time for everyone. From couples to every relationship. Corona has been testing our immunity along with our patience.
So how has my relationship survived in this lockdown ? Well to begin with I wouldn’t say it is all rosy and perfect. No couples are perfect and no individual definately is. Situations like this bring out the worst in you sometimes, atleast it did bring out the worst in me. Unfortunately, in India, the least importance is given to the husband and wife relationship. We as a society have formed our set of check list and expect every couple to follow the same.
We never really bother to ask the couple if they are happy following the rules of the rule book.
My husband started working from home from mid – march. A couple of days after my son’s school shut down. We had recently shifted to this house, which has an additional room than our previous house. Which means during the lockdown he could have one room entirely to work as an office. Having proper work space is also important to survive as a couple.
With two kids around at home completely there were moments when I was overwhelmed. Especially when I had to explain them the concept that daddy has to complete his homework soon. There were times when I was overwhelmed, stressed, excited,anxious, depressed because I am a human being and these are normal emotions. Like every couple, we also did have our own share of differences, because we are two people with two different thinking process.
There were times when I prayed that he should go to office so that my routine is back on track, but I know that is not possible anytime soon.
The secret for a happy marriage is fight. I remember my ex-senior saying this. The reason being simple, that when we fight, we express our deepest concerns that bothers us instead of piling on. When you pile on an emotion, it will blast at the wrong time. Damaging your relationship forever.
Yes. We had our happy moments, sad moments, stressful moments but we managed to sail through this storm. A couple’s relationship needs a huge investment of time, trust, love, respect and space. A relationship is not built overnight. Times like lockdown always test our relationship. With domestic violence on the rise in multiple houses due to various reasons, a lot of people are headed for seperation.
Just becoming parents does not mean you end your relationship with your spouse. You need to spend time with your spouse and understand each other. Your spouse is called as your life partner because you spend majority of your lifetime with your spouse than with your parents or kids.
So this is how we are surviving the lockdown. There is no rocket science or perfect formula but just living it one day at a time. Yes, there have been days, when we have been messy and mostly it’s me who breaks down emotionally. But I think we have grown a lot together subconsciously.
Awaiting for that smirk my husband will give when he reads this. The image is a proof that in this lockdown we have literally just grown together fully.