As I am typing this article, something very scary is trending on Twitter. #Boyslockerroomtalk and #GirlsLockeroomtalk. It all started yesterday, when a private instagram chat between few South Delhi Boys came out in public. These were groups formed on Instagram, wherein they were having sexual talks about girls who were their classmates. The worst part is these were barely teenager kids and their idea of sex was wild. All the more reason, why we need to introduce proper sex education to our children with raging hormones.
P.S. The original chat content had statements, which were purely sexual in nature and I do not wish to share the same on my website. However if you check the #Lockerroomboys and #Lockerroomgirls on Twitter, you may find the same.
Unfortunatley, the way we handle crisis with respect to sexual crime in India is by victim shaming. The moment this was trending on twitter, a counter tweet was made trending # Girlslockerroomtalk, wherein, messages of girls talking in the same way about boys was trending. I am not saying that girls do not talk about such things but please understand the major concern here. You need to first finish one problem, which is much major concern regarding the women. Countering them is not going to make the world a safer place for any person.
The thing that we need to understand here is making the society and mainly the web space safer for children. Instead the entire debate was heading towards gender bashing.
Saving Children from the Web – role of parents in reducing cyber crime. A 9 year old these days without a Mobile Phone or a Face book Account is termed as “uncool” by his friends. In the pressure to be a part of the peer group, a kid who generally doesn’t know how to separate an original product from the duplicate product ends up trusting the people in the virtual world whom he believes to be real and his own. There begins a problem in our families and society where the children begin to trust all that they see in the virtual world and don’t make an effort to discover things in real life.
Exploring the virtual world is no harm, but ignoring the real world means no real relations with family or friends. The loss in this case for the children??? Emotional trauma, no family support for guidance, no real friends to run around and play with and a lot of unseen physical as well as psychological problems which lead to increase in the crime in society. It is true technology is a part of our daily lives and we need to keep up with the developing world but do we really need ignore the innocence of our children?
The law is definitely there in place, but how well are our law executors and implementers able to follow it and implement it. Besides apart from relying only on the law its high time that we all also take up a little responsibility of our children and contribute towards the society, which we all claim that we do our part by paying taxes. One of the ways in which we can help curb children being victims of internet is if the parents become the first moral police, as it is easier for parents to keep closer watch on their children than expecting your nearest police station to come to rescue. Being a moral police in this case does not mean that parents have to restrict their children from using mobile phones or ban them from using the social networking sites all together. Remember that a lot of children these days turn to use social networking sites and rely on the people they meet there only to kill their loneliness and depression mainly. Children always need our attention and care, so two sugar coated words by a stranger will boost their moral and self respect, thus slowly your child feels that the stranger or the unknown person is his friend/ agony aunt than his own parents who probably doesn’t even have a minute to spare for him or always shouts at him for his every small mistake that he commits just to get attention of his parents. Time is the most precious thing that any parent can give their children.
A lot of parents shy away from being technologically friendly with their children, this problem can also be solved if all the institutions come forward and decide to eradicate this problem. Schools during their Parent Teachers meeting can make the parents realize how important it is for the children and parents to be friends in real life as well as be friends on the internet. It is important that various people from the society such as Child Psychologist, Teachers, Lawyers, Police, technology experts all come together and form a group and educate the parents and all the citizens in general about the pros and cons and how to control children from accessing the internet and to what extent it is ok to use the internet and to what extent it is not. The said group of people may be an NGO or a government body can conduct regular seminars at the work places as remove the shyness and negligence of parents from being friendly with their children online.
Remember for a child the first world is his family, so if the child can be well trained and made a good citizen by the parents themselves the biggest benefit will be for all of us. I guess its high time that we ignore our duties and rely mainly on the Judicial and Executive Machinery to curb the crime in the society. Afterall, a good son or daughter will be your assest and not the states assest, so think about it.
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