If I were to talk about my previous decade, it was nothing but full of contradictions.

Today, at the end of the decade, I am doing things, that I thought I would never do.

One of the things about life is, it always throws surprises at us and so did my life.

At the begining of the decade in 2009, I was in the second year of my LL.B, determined that I would never practice law. I initially intended to pursue law, only for the sake of knowledge and not to be a practising lawyer. I participated in all the competitions during my college times, and also was doing my internship with a law firm, Just because I did not want to practice !!

Ironically, today, I am a practising lawyer with my own independent practice. Somehow, it was mainly due to the faith of two people in my life, my guru, My College Pricipal Prof. N.M.Rajadhyaksha Sir and my former Senior Adv. N.S.Nappinai. Strange but somehow they always believed that I had all the qualities to be a good lawyer despite me unable to identify it within myself. Sometimes, we do need good Mentors or Gurus who can show us the right path in our lives and take out the best from us. In the last decade if these two people, would have not entered into my life, I would have been that clueless person still trying hard to find my way through life.

I was always this strong, independent girl, during my college days and often came across too much head strong, that nobody wanted to mess with. I was often more friendly with the guys because they often considered me as one of them. I could never be a part of the gossip gang, discussing nail polish or bitching about somebody’s affairs or thinking about the next receipe or boasting about my cooking skills.

Therefore in the early years of the decade, I was often labelled as a Non Marriageable Material. Trust me no matter, how much you externally show that it is cool to have that label, internally it hurts a lot. To add to it, I had bad skin, was on the heavier side and taller than most Indian Women.

I did not bother about them, lost my weight by taking out 8 months just for the welfare of my body and mind. (trust me it was the best time and it prepared me for life). Once I was strong enough mentally and physically, I happily entered into matrimony.

Because of all these comments, I had thought, that I would try to get married until I reach 35, if not then adopt a girl child and settle down quietly. May be God had other plans, Today I am 33, mother to a loving son and cute daughter with an ever supportive husband with me.

The Non Marriageable Material today has her own family.

Writing was always a deeply hidden desire, but I never thought that I would pursue it as a profession. I always wanted to be an author, but was clueless how to do it. I undertook the biggest risk of my life and self published my book but I miserably failed to market the same. Why the biggest risk? I put down my entire savings, which I had in the last few years on the book. Now I am working on my second book and will market it well and hopefully will not repeat the same mistake.

Career wise, I am happy because the challenges that were thrown in by life and people made me a much better and a smarter professional. I am happy that I quit my job at the right time and was lucky enough that all the calculated risk worked out for me.

This past decade was not perfect but was with full of Changes. Some changes taught me to be strong, some changes made me weak. The best part about this decade is that it made me a better person.

Some takeaways that Life gave me in the past Decade,

  • Its ok to be weak, vulnerable and emotional, as long as you emerge more stronger.
  • Expect the unexpected and face them bravely,
  • My biggest weakness was fear on what would people say, now a days I don’t care about what people think and therefore, I managed to reduce my unnecessary physical and emotional stress;
  • Change is the only constant thing;
  • I realised the importance of physical health and mental health at a very big cost, today I nourish my mind and body equally;
  • I am strong enough and no I am not ashamed to be strong and independent.
  • I learnt to challenge myself every single day instead of comparing my status with others;
  • Finally learnt to appreciate small things in life;
  • Everything is a phase, so I am much more patient that the time will change now.

There have been major mishaps and tragedies but I learnt from them and survived. Instead of crying about them today, I want to consider them just as a phase.

The most important part , I learnt to love myself and accept my strength and weaknesses and I am not scared to declare it that I am Happy and Content in my life.

This post is a part of ‘DECADE Blog Hop’ #DecadeHop organized by #RRxMM Rashi Roy and Manas Mukul. The Event is sponsored by Glo and co-sponsored by Beyond The Box, Wedding Clap, The Colaba Store and Sanity Daily in association with authors Piyusha Vir and Richa S Mukherjee”

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