A Letter to my children

Today when I am writing this letter, my children are 5 years and 7 months. I know it is too early for them to understand the things that I may mention in this letter, but the only reason I am writing it today, is because I got some spare time. This is not going to be about philosophy of life but a few things that I wish that you share with me.

Dear Suraj and Soumya,

Whenever you read this letter, I am sure you would be happy in your life. I do not know how old you would be when you read and understand the meaning of this letter. It is just that today I feel like pouring my heart to you.

You both have taught me the real meaning of strength, patience and happiness. Your small hugs, happy faces to see me after a few minutes, tiny kisses and attempt to reduce my burden, mean a lot to me and I will always cherish them. You made me realise that motherhood was the most beautiful experience that I could ever have in life.

Even though they say, it takes a village to raise a child, our society unfortunately put the entire burden on the mother to teach her child everything. But remember, the biggest teacher that you will have are Life and Experience, the things that they will teach you will make you a strong person.

I may not always be there with you physically or mentally or emotionally to take every decision for you, but remember to take your own decisions in life. Your decisions are solely your responsibility and so is the consequence of your actions. May it be teasing someone, having sex, consuming your first alcohol or your first Cigarrate for “trial purpose”. Remember first time will always have consequences that you may not be able to handle.

Before we reach to the teenage stage, where you would hate me to the core, considering that I may have different opinion, remember, even if we fight , I am there to listen to you.

I may be against that tatoo or piercing or your choice of friends.

I may be against your choice of clothes

I may be against your passion and career,

But no matter what happens always remember that I am there for you. If any outsider or someone even whom we both know is bullying you, I am always there for you.

There will be a time, when we both may not have same opinions because we both belong to different places. Instead of encouraging the differences between us, let us give an opportunity to each other to listen. A lot of times differences may be resolved by just listening to each other.

Now coming down to the harsh reality, I will not always be around you and so it is important that I help you train yourself to fight the big bad world outside. You have to be independent and self dependent and not let other’s prejudice affect you. Have faith in your capabilities and trust me even time and fate will bow in front of you.

Remember, every bad time as well as good time is a phase. It is all about how you deal with it and handle the situation.

Emotions such anger, jealousy, hatred, insecurity, sadness, happiness are all commmon, because you are a human being and you are bound to have it. IT is perfectly to ok to express your emotions, but how to do it and when to do it and in front of whom to express is what you need to learn, which only time can teach you.

Come what may in life, never compromise on your self respect. Whatever step you may take, you need to be able to look into your own eyes, before you face the world or me.

The world is a big bad place, but that does not mean there are no good people. Sometimes, people who are too friendly may be selfish. Learn to understand people and then build a relationship. Strip off your position, money, family, skill and despite that does the person want to be with you. Then yes !!!, such people are worth having friends.

It is important to have bad phase in life because only then you will value and treasure what good phase gives you. Bad phase is the biggest teacher in life. It will help you to identify your strength and weakenss and most importantly people. But what is most important is that you do not break down during this phase.

There are still a lot of things I want to share with you. May be when the time comes, we will sit down and have a chat about it.

Till then remember…

P.S.I love you

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24 comments

  1. Lovely. You have described every mother’s emotions so beautifully. Yes, there are times when our children hate us, judge our decisions but later they understand the depth behind those thoughts.

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  2. That’s a nice one, we as parents will always be on there side but yes they have to take responsibility for their own acts. You have expressed all teenage worries so well it says as mother we also need to have patience in dealing with them. loved kids names.

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  3. Wow what a post Aishwarya. You have penned down every mother’s emotions. Only we know what it is being a mom. I will read this to my daughter too.

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  4. Loved the post and yes it happens..generation gap often creates a state of dis agreement between kids and parents. but at the end, it is love, trust and care are most important things that matter most in a relationship. and with the power of these emotions, kids feel strong and grew up as an independent and passionate individuals.

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  5. Well said Aishwarya, yes, we parents have to prepare our kids to be independent and take decisions on their own as we won’t be there for them always.

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  6. That’s a great letter and so heartfelt with emotions. Though we do know that they are from the same blood our thoughts always don’t have to be in sync with them.
    Sometimes it’s good to let them.go their way and learn but a little warning wouldn’t hurt.
    #thatmadrasmomreads

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  7. How wonderfully you have included all the positives and negatives faced by a mother and her child in the lifeime together. Indeed its the truth and need to be accepted by the children. inspiring .

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  8. How well you have expressed the mixed bag of emotions that a mother experiences. There will be times when our kids may not agree to what we tell them, irrespective of the fact, they’ll always love us and we will always love them.

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  9. Totally with you on every single pointer . We are not in a fairy world to tell the kids about rosy stories and pamper with
    Lots of false stories . The harsh reality should be told and it is essential for them to deal with some bad times . Raw reality told with a promise of support 🙂

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