To fast or not to fast

Today since morning my timeline has been flooded with images of yesterday’s Karva Chauth Celebrations. Friends dressed in their fine jewlery and outfits, looking no less than an angel. Simultaneously, there were a few who were against this fasting because this festival promotes patriarchy.

I come from a community, where this festival is not celebrated and my knowledge about the same is limited to Kjo movies and Yashraj films. I love to see women dressed up and given an opportunity, I would do the same. Yes. I also end up fasting most of the years because on the same day is Sankashti Chaturthi, i.e. the fourth day after the full moon day every month.

I believe that every festival in India was celebrated to worship nature and so is Karva Chauth no different. The basic idea behind this festival was to fast for the safety of men (soldiers), who were often posted far away in the military camps. Their wives and children could not be with them and therefore for their safety and longetivity, their wives prayed and kept fast. This festival also coincides with Wheat sowing time, that also explains why, this festival is celebrated mainly in the states that produce wheat.

Also during the olden days , women did all the chores by themselves and barely had any time to socialise. Unlike today, where we have social media, to keep us entertained and socialise. This was one festival, wherein all women would gather together, be relaxed and spend the day exclusively for themselves. Instead of serving their families, they would spend the entire day for themselves, by getting ready, making henna designs on their hands, listening to kathas and by exchanging Karva.

Karva is an earthern pot, which was used for storage during the olden days. On Karwa Chauth, women decorate Karwa, fill it with different shringar items and exchange the same. The shopping for Karva Chauth itself is a big activity for women, which makes them happy. Unlike today, wherein we buy dresses and cosmetics every other weekend, women in the olden days never bought things for themselves.

Women usually have a good snack, which keeps them full and hydrated throughout the day. So that they do not crash till the end of the day.

Yes, there are traditional tales, which tell the reason for the celebration of this festival. Such as stories of Veeravati, Draupadi, Satyavati etc.but the reason behind the celebration of every festival always has reason behind it.

So in the name of fake feminism and western influence, stop calling this festival a product of patriarchy. To fast or not to keep a fast is an individual choice. Your fasting, may or may not increase somebody’s life, but it will definately increase your social skills and bonding with your female friends and husband.

A few lovely women who shared their pictures. Special Thanks to Samidha Mathur, Riya Tiwari, Gunjan Sachdeva, Sonia Bharadwaj, Garima Aggarwal, Shweta Aggarwal, Kavisha Duggal, Babita Sharma, Monika Pathania, Priti Sharma for allowing me to share their lovely pictures and Akansha Bansal for helping me out everytime I need help.

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  1. That’s some history, never knew about that. I feel in this digital age, people have become quite judgemental of other’s choices. I also feel there should never be a need to justify one’s choices. If you want to fast, you fast. If you don’t, you don’t. A single day out of 365 days can’t improve anyone’s relation if there are no efforts on the other days neither it can prove a point. Festivals are meant to spread good vibes & the focus should be on that only.


  2. I completely agree with fast or not, should be an individual choice and other women should stop being judgmental about other women’ s choice. great post and apt for festival season.


  3. How we celebrate a festival is totally upon us. We are no one to judge or comnent on others’ beliefs. Whereas the whole nation fast during Navratri, we Bengalis have the best of food during that time to celebrate Durga Puja. Really aporeciate how you have pointed on fake feminism.


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