Why it is tough to be a girl child even today

Beti Bachao Beti Padhao, has been the slogan for the new government. True, today laws are more stringent with respect to the protection of the girl child. Our society has so called progressed by ALLOWING Women to work equally along with men. Today we can make our own choices, own properties, be physically , mentally, financially independent and take care of ourselves in every manner.

Yet, there are a few things, that is still making our lives more difficult.

Unrealistic expectations.

Shocked ! Why did I say this. The problem with our generation, basically the children who are born in the 80’s and 90’s are mothers of young little girls and boys today. We were a part of the slow transition, where everything went digital and Indian Television got privatised. As this was a slow transition, we could easily mould ourselves to new ideas and were easily acceptable in the society during the early 2000’s when we were in our teens.

Post 2010, when we are now married and mothers, the society has once again started to kill us with their unrealistic expectations. The Media leaves no page unturned to ensure, that they encourage your insecurity. The role of media, which was to educate people and make them more liberal has successfully done the reverse for the sake of TRP.

It is true that in our generation marriages are barely forever today and it is the same unrealistic expectations that is killing these marriages. We are expected to be educated and be all rounders during our school and college days because that is the only way in which a middle class girl’s profile will get a second look on the matrimonial website. Simultaneously we need to have a high paying job so that the groom feels complimentary to his qualification. If we expect the same from the groom, we are termed as mannerless and greedy.

Apart from all this we also need to be all rounders in the household chores and need to love it to the T, because we are born women and there is no option except to be trained as a docile home maker apart from being a fierce professional. Even today nobody cares, if your dreams are shattered or you are slowly killing them everyday.

This international Girl child day, let us all take an oath that tomorrow we will not kill our girl children with unrealistic expectation. Let them be totally on their feet and teach them to face the society bravely. Simultaneously, let us create a society for them, where no action of theirs is prejudiced by our thoughts.

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21 Comments Add yours

  1. Sad reality. Expectations are even higher now – women should balance, house, work, relations, other duties like bank, house rent – there is a never ending list of expectations. I think it’s time – women say- ENOUGH! and stop doing what they can’t. no one is super human.

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  2. Sweetannu says:

    Sad but true, if only we realize and stand up to our rights and try to change the wrong happening around us.

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  3. We as women or mom expect so much from ourselves and keep judging if we r a good mom, r we a good wife. First we must give freedom to ourselves as a first change, that will automatically trickle down to next generation.

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  4. Dr. Surbhi Prapanna says:

    I completely agree with your thoughts, and agree that women are facing unrealistic expectations in different aspects of life. its great thought on this international girl child day and as a mom of two girls, I hope that in future this scenario will change. and our girl
    child will have a better world to live with more happiness and freedom.

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  5. The post is truly touching. As a girl, we face unexpected expectations from all around, family, spouse, societal. Hopefully, the scenario will change in the future.

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  6. Tina Basu says:

    the society has unrealistic expectations from the girls and women, I think the boys get it much easier and it is still difficult for a woman to just be herself! I can hear your thoughts.

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  7. simi sp says:

    being a mother or a woman is not a easy task every phase is challenging nice post thank for sharing well written.

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  8. Shilpa Garg says:

    True, unrealistic expectations can be a big burden and has the potential to ruin lives. Women are expected to be smart, educated, independent but not so much so that it makes the men feel threatened, unwanted or intimidated. How sad is that! It’s time that the society lets our girls and women just be themselves!

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  9. Deepika says:

    Sad but it’s true. As a girl we have to face lots of expectations. And for some we bound to follow whether we want to do or not.

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  10. Tough life and tougher giving up dreams.As an educated woman we are luckier than the generation before.May be we can be stepping stones for those who are our daughters,grand-daughters in the future.

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  11. Bushra says:

    That’s bitter truth of the society and it has overburden girls with unrealistic expectations.

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  12. Zainab Razi says:

    Current societies have really high expectations nowadays feel really sad about it but unfortunately, it is the truth. Such a well-written article really liked it.

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  13. Varsh says:

    Know what, our generation also has the attitude of not being afraid of making changes that we don’t agree with. If as parents we help our girls stand tall, nothing and no one can make them fall prey to any expectations.

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  14. jhilmildsaha says:

    The life of a girl, no matter what she does revolves around listening to parents as a child, satisfying the family and husband’s needs after marriage and attending to children after becoming a mother. I wish the unrealistic expectations of being a flawless allrounder no longer exist

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  15. Amrit Kaur says:

    The reality for girl child is sad but true. We all should pledge not to kill girl child and welcome her happily in our families

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  16. This is something very sad but reality today. Glad you shared your experience and helping motivate and spread a positive word

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  17. Jeff Anton says:

    Hello there! This post could not be written any better! Reading through this post reminds me of my previous roommate! He continually kept preaching about this. I most certainly will forward this information to him. Fairly certain he’s going to have a great read. I appreciate you for sharing!

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  18. An outstanding share! I have just forwarded this onto a colleague who had been conducting a little research on this. And he actually ordered me dinner because I stumbled upon it for him… lol. So allow me to reword this…. Thanks for the meal!! But yeah, thanx for spending time to talk about this issue here on your website.

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